Question:
Jazakum Allah Khairan and may we benefit from your knowledge. But there is one part of the question that was left unanswered, I wish that it will be noticed (by our Sheikh) that is, what is its ruling over all (bil kuliyah)? I.e. if the woman was in her house, is it allowed for her to wear the wig? Or does this take the ruling of "al Wasila wal Mustawsila" (the one who adds the hair extension to someone's hair and the one who has it added to her hair)?
Answer:
Wa Alaikumu Assalaam wa Rahmatullah wa Barakatuhu
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Since it is forbidden (for the woman) to wear the wig when going out because it is tabarruj (revealing the charms); and we mentioned that the dress in the public life has three requirements that go hand in hand: it covers the ‘Awra, is not tabarruj, and to wear the jilbab.
Wearing a wig is tabarruj, therefore it is not permitted to go out wearing it unless there is a khimar (head cover) that covers it entirely.
If you mean by the word "kuliyah" a University College, and if a woman can wear a wig there, then, it is not permissible to wear the wig there. But it is allowed to wear it inside her house but only to be seen wearing it by her mahrams and husband. But her brother-in-law (her husband's brother) is not allowed to see the wig on her head.
As for the meaning of the wig as "al Wasila wal Mustawsila", then the matter is not so, because "al Wasila is the one who attaches hair extension to the hair to increase its length, and it is not to wear a wig on top of the hair, but it is connecting another hair (extension) to the hair to make it look longer; this is haram anywhere a woman may be in, even in her house. This is according to the hadith extracted by Bukhari on the authority of Abu Huraira(ra) that the Prophet (saw) said: «لَعَنَ اللَّهُ الوَاصِلَةَ وَالمُسْتَوْصِلَةَ...» "Allah cursed al Wasila wal Mustawsila"
Your brother,
Ata Bin Khalil Abu Al-Rashtah
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Question:
What is the ruling on becoming angry with the parents and raising one's voice at them? Bearing in mind that the parents have caused the son many problems in which he had to resolve; instead of looking after him while he was young, he is the one who had to resolve their stances and actions. Is getting angry and raising the voice at the parents sometimes considered from "Uqooq al walidain" (being undutiful to the parents) and unable to achieve success "Tawfeeq" in life?
Answer:
Wa Alaikumu Assalaam wa Rahmatullah wa Barakaatuhu,
Allah (swt) made it prohibited to say "uff" to the parents. How about getting angry at them and raising the voice at them?
Allah (swt) says:
وَقَضَى رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوا إِلَّا إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِنْدَكَ الْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَا أَوْ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُلْ لَهُمَا أُفٍّ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُلْ لَهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِيمًا
"And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], "uff," and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word." [Al-Isra': 23]
Allah Subhanahu has compared being good to parents to His worship (swt) in order to show the greatness of this obligation. There are numerous texts regarding the obedience to the parents and their obedience eases the way to Jannah by His permission (swt).
The Prophet (saw) says in the Sahih Hadith; extracted by Muslim by the authority of Abu Huraira (ra), that the Prophet (saw) said in the Sahih Hadith:«رَغِمَ أَنْفُ، ثُمَّ رَغِمَ أَنْفُ، ثُمَّ رَغِمَ أَنْفُ»، قِيلَ: مَنْ؟ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ قَالَ: «مَنْ أَدْرَكَ أَبَوَيْهِ عِنْدَ الْكِبَرِ، أَحَدَهُمَا أَوْ كِلَيْهِمَا فَلَمْ يَدْخُلِ الْجَنَّةَ» "Raghima anfu" and "Raghima anfu" and "Raghima anfu" (which literally means his nose is stuck to the sand because of the humiliation and disgrace)" They said: Who, O Messenger of Allah? He (saw) said: "The one who witnesses his parents when they become old, either one of them or both and does not enter Jannah." Blessings are to the one who witness his parents when they become old and obeys them and utters words of kindness to them, this will make him enter Jannah. We must pay attention to be good to our parents and be humble towards them and show compassion.
In any case, if someone lapses and "became angry" at his parents as mentioned in the question, then he must repent to Allah and seek the forgiveness of his parents and their pleasure. The hearts of the parents are lenient and merciful; and they forgive the lapses of their children if they ask for their forgiveness.
Your brother,
Ata Bin Khalil Abu Al-Rashtah
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Tuesday, 10 Dhul Hijjah 1434 AH corresponding to 15 October 2013 CE
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